Issues When You Lack Assertiveness - Introvert Whisperer

Introvert Whisperer / Issues When You Lack Assertiveness - Introvert Whisperer Issues When You Lack Assertiveness I had a conversation with someone recently about the skill of assertiveness.   For many people, it doesn’t come naturally.   The lack of assertiveness exists for a number of reasons ranging from lack of confidence to a desire to avoid damaging a relationship.   The problem with not learning the skill is that it sets you up for any number of negative situations. Here are some of the issues when you fail to assert yourself: You’ll get abused or taken advantage of. Humans have a nasty tendency to view someone who is passive (absence of assertiveness) as weak.   An almost primal urge exists to pick on that kind of person.   That’s never good. You won’t be trusted. Sounds funny but its true.   People quickly learn that they can’t trust that you will be straightforward with your opinions/needs/direction.   Trust is foundational to effective relationships at work or anywhere. You might resort to poor alternatives. Some people who don’t assert will allow situations to get so bad that they resort to yelling or very emotional reactions.   Another poor alternative is passive aggressive communication.   It’s a way of “skirting” an issue and not directly communicating.   Either alternative is bad and does nothing to build trust. They don’t trust that you won’t have another outburst or irritated at your inability to come clean with your thoughts. You won’t be successful. If you can’t be assertive, you will limit your success tremendously. The limitation is because your work will always be dependent on others. If you can’t establish boundaries and expectations by asserting those things, the other person is left to do things based on their own. If you think your assertiveness skills aren’t what they should be, you need to change that today.   There’s ton’s of information written on the subject, including on my blog. Learn the skill!   Assertiveness will make your personal life much better, it will improve your work situation and if you are or plan to be a leader it is a requirement. Go to top Bottom-line â€" I want to help you accelerate your career â€" to achieve what you want by connecting you with your Free Instant Access to my 4 Building Blocks to Relationships eBookâ€" the backbone to your Networking success and fantastic work relationships.  Grab yours by visiting here right now! Brought to you by Dorothy Tannahill-Moran â€" dedicated to unleashing your professional potential. Introvert Whisperer